Does the bad energies of other people drag you down? It could be your colleagues, family members, or even friends whom you’ve grown apart from.

When you’re surrounded with negativity, it’s easy to consume the energy and start feeling down. This will screw up with your mind and make you feel exhausted.

That’s why it’s so important to be with the people you’re quickly linked to and who raise your spirits up. We all know that this isn’t always easy, particularly when we don’t have the choice of family members or colleagues.

That being said, there are ways in which we should add positivity to circumstances and not let negativity affect our minds. In this post, I’m sharing five ideas about how to deal with negative people so they don’t get into your mind.

How negativity affects you

We’ve always been dealing with negative, frustrated, and overbearing people throughout our lives. I remember working for someone in a state of panic. In the last minute, they were trying to figure out something, and they were obviously disappointed that things weren’t going to plan. In the other hand, I was getting irritated because they were impatient and sassy towards me.

Haven’t we all been in circumstances where someone else’s bad management ends up taking their frustration out on us? I’m sure you did the same thing to other people, too. The truth is, it makes everyone’s life miserable.

If someone asks me to do something out of a place of fear and anger, it makes me feel panicked and irritated. If the same person had taken the time to collect their calm before asking me to do something, I may have been able to help out from the position of composure, too.

Often dealing with someone else’s negativity is more than just a one-time affair. Everyone is irritated from time to time, but there are still people who seem to be continuously dragging down our energy. Sometimes it’s a whole world full of strangers who don’t have the same goals as you do.

How to deal with negative people

Whatever it is, you can feel yourself being affected when you’re around them. Most of us tend to absorb the mood of whoever’s around us, so how do we avoid letting negative people drain our energy when we can’t escape them? Here are a few tips to help:

Detach: 

Remember, the way people behave has nothing to do with you. Detach yourself from your frustrations and do not internalize them as your fault. They’ve got their own things to do, and that’s their shoulders to deal with.

Avoid blame:

Do not accuse, assume, or attack them. Telling people they should “stop being so negative” usually doesn’t go well. Show this person the compassion and empathy you want them to show you. Just don’t let them walk all over you. 

Respond calmly:

Answer the way you want them to talk to you. Stop being passively aggressive, because that doesn’t benefit anyone. If they’re gossiping or bringing someone down, either change the subject or walk out.

Be firm:

Be firm with your boundaries. If someone does something that crosses a line, let them know. You have to commit to your values, to your resources, to your resources, or else people would take advantage of these things.

Find the positive:

Identify what brings good energy to you. There may be some individuals, TV programs, books, workouts, self-care, etc. Follow these things out sometimes, particularly when you feel like others are wasting your energy. But if someone else’s negative energy compromises your satisfaction, walk away (even if that means forever).

How do you deal with negative people?

I hope this post has given you some tips to handle negative energy when it comes your way. If you can find ways to stay calm and protect your own energy, you can avoid letting negativity affect you.